why the friendzone isn’t a bad thing

For many people, being placed in the ‘friendzone’ is pretty discouraging. Popular culture and media has conditioned us that we need a relationship to be happy, but is this true? Since when do we need a significant other just to provide us with “happiness?”

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In our world today, we see many important steps being skipped in relationships. Kids in elementary and middle school think that having a boyfriend or a girlfriend makes them cool, then as they grow older, often times teens and young adults become immersed in the hookup culture that society presents as normal. Relationships are based around selfish motives, seeking pleasure and fulfilment without commitment. Ultimately, this leads to broken hearts and broken homes.

What if, instead of being upset when someone told us they didn’t want to have a “special relationship,” we welcomed the opportunity to get to know people in a low pressure situation? Why couldn’t we be thankful that instead of trying to put work into something we aren’t ready for, we now may have an opportunity to get to know someone casually, to see if he or she would be a suitable person to someday have a purposeful relationship with.

Being “just friends” isn’t a bad thing! While it’s easy to be tempted to think that no one wants to be with you, instead, it may ultimately be a blessing. God creates friendships so people can spend time together in a healthy environment, instead of compromising their values.

And ultimately, we must remember that no human being can truly bring us joy and satisfaction. Christ fills up the emptiness in our hearts, and without Him, no friendship – no matter if it is casual or serious – can fulfil our heart’s desire for companionship.